Confidence. What does it mean to you?
To me it's the ability or the belief to believe in yourself to accomplish any task, no matter the odds, no matter the difficulty, no matter the adversity. The belief that you an accomplish it. Confidence.
Some of you may be saying "Oh great, I don't have that ...". But never fear, Jamie is here!
I'm going to be sharing 5 simple ways to become more confident.
1. Know yourself.
If you don't know yourself, then other people may come along and try to tell you who you are. They know your name not your story.
Be honest with who you are. There are currently 7 billion people (that's a lot of people!), but there is only one of you. I know this sound corny, but confidence is all about believing in yourself. How can you believe in yourself if you are trying to be someone else? If you're ever asked "If there is anybody that you could be, who would you be?" your answer should always be "myself". Because you're worth it.
2. Don't compare yourself
Don't compare yourself to other people, and don't compare other's to other people. No one likes to be compared, yet we all do it to others, whether it's the occasional gossip or a full-blown bitching session. So many people compare their weaknesses to somebody else's strength, where as other people's weaknesses could actually be your strength. There are only two results that come from comparing. You either become boastful by thinking that you're better than them and letting pride get the better of you, or you end up feeling worthless. Everyone has insecurities, nobody's perfect. So instead of comparing, you should learn from them instead.
The world of emotions can be quite a dangerous place, as experienced by those avid readers.
Emotions are a result of our thoughts, so if you think negatively then your obviously going to be sad and gloomy. However, what you think doesn't make it a fact. For example, if you say "I feel like a potato", it doesn't make you a potato.
The thing about confidence is that it can take years and years to build, but only seconds to break. But this is only if you let it. If you think positively and know your real self, you'll be as tough as a rock.
4. Thank those who made you feel worthless.
Those people who said you weren't good enough or doubted you. You are a diamond. If you've ever been to a jewellery store, you'll see that diamonds are always placed on top of black velvet. They do this in order to make the diamond appear more beautiful by contrasting it with a dark colour. Those who doubted you or embarrassed you are like the velvet. They make you shine more brightly, so without them you wouldn't be as amazing as you are.
5. Be yourself.
Should you be afraid of a raised eyebrow? No. You don't need to feel like you should have to change for anyone.
Don't worry if someone doesn't like who you. You're living your life, not theirs.
“Somehow I can't believe that there are any heights that can't be scaled by a man who knows the secrets of making dreams come true. This special secret, it seems to me, can be summarised in four Cs. They are curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy, and the greatest of all is confidence. When you believe in a thing, believe in it all the way, implicitly and unquestionable.” - Disney
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